by Karina Vasquez
If you were to see my fiance and I walking hand in hand against a New York City backdrop, you probably would not assume we were an interracial couple. We both have lighter complexions, he more than I. We both have straight hair; his is blond, mine brown. We both tend to favor classic brands like Ralph Lauren and Sperry.
However, despite our physical similarities and our affinity for American sportswear, we are an interracial couple. I am of Puerto Rican and Chilean descent and he is a reform Jew, born and raised in Savannah, Georgia. Although our upbringings represent two entirely different worlds, we have a very healthy relationship, and since its inception, we’ve strived to learn more about one another’s culture.
In our first year of dating, I did my research and discovered a reform synagogue in Union Square that was welcoming to interfaith couples. I was raised Catholic, but had not practiced it in my adulthood, and was open to adopting a new religion if it felt right. My boyfriend had never pressured me into converting, but after my first experience in the synagogue I knew I had found a religion that I would trust to guide my life decisions.
Around the same time that I made the decision to convert, my boyfriend bought Rosetta Stone in an effort to learn Spanish, as I am a native speaker and the majority of my family solely speaks Spanish. Judaism came much easier to me than Spanish did to him, but fast forward two years later and we have both found aspects of one another’s cultures that we cherish.
Now as we shop for my engagement ring and discuss wedding arrangements, I cannot help but wonder how the hell I am going to keep my Latino roots alive with a last name like Greenberg. One of the things I love most about my last name is that although my ethnicity is unknown with a first look at me, once you hear my last name, you know I am a Latina. However, I also wonder if I was to keep my last name, would I lose a familial connection with my future husband? I toss around the idea of hyphenating, but isn’t Vasquez-Greenberg just too long? I ask my fellow Latinas and Latinos on Being Latino, help me out and give me your thoughts. This Judia Latina would love to hear them.
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